Were you, having demonstrated your
proficiency in the Japanese language, regarded as little more than an organ
grinding monkey? Would you accept a
monkey who grinds the organ as your equal in terms of sophistication, culture,
ability, and intelligence? Yes, your
analogy is simplistic. So much so that
it does not make your point for you.
It
is true that non-Japanese are often not fully accepted in legal terms as
citizens who do not suffer governmental discrimination. Racism certainly exists in Japan as well
as in many other countries.
You need not remind me of the topic of our
discussion. What does merit explanation,
however, is how your apparent belief that the personal experiences you include
in that discussion, those in support of general stereotypes, are valid; whereas
mine, which contradict them, are not.
How is that? Such discourse is
characteristic of the pushy American that you mention.
You use society as a whole and the
government interchangeably. Is it your
position that political decisions and policies represent society as a
whole? But there is and has been
widespread criticism of and dissatisfaction with the government among members
of society.
Yes there are and have been controversial
textbooks written in Japan. There has also been open debate and protest
among teachers and parents and other groups and involving lawsuits against such
books, and most schools have not adopted them.
This contradicts what you understand to be ‘the Japanese way’ which is
that the Japanese ‘to their countrymen, the one with whom open dialogue is most
important, they hide their true hearts and feelings.’ You might argue that Japanese textbooks still
do not represent an accurate portrayal of many events that occurred. True, as in other countries, Japanese
textbooks gloss over or ignore certain horrible shameful periods.
Compare American history texts. They do not adequately represent US
atrocities in other countries. Unlike Japan, however, the US continues to invade other
countries and kill civilians. The
government continues to lie about the reasons for going to war as well as the
behavior of its soldiers and officers fighting in war. Like Japan, it has been often through the
confessions of soldiers who were unable to participate in the morally
reprehensible acts of violence and murder that their fellow soldiers were
engaged in that has been in part responsible for educating the public about the
realities of US war making.
I am neither pushy nor American, and that
is likely why I was able to form meaningful relationships there. Perhaps there is much in my world view and
approach to interpersonal relationships that the Japanese I encountered found of
value, recognizing it as having something in common with their own
understanding. Maybe you were the pushy
American to whom the Japanese were ridiculously polite but condescending, not
wishing to offend you, but not seeing you as a worthy person for full
acceptance. That seems to be your
complaint. And yet you state that you
love Japan. Wonderful.
I hope you have a chance to go back and have a positive experience. The statement that the Japanese have not
opened their hearts to the world is meaningless. What were these new ideas that you brought? Maybe they just did not like your new ideas. Did you explain to them the crux of their
society’s problem, that they ‘never reveal their true feelings’? What is that judgement based on? Even if that statement characterizes Japanese
society, who are you to suggest that Japanese society would be improved if they
would just start telling everybody how they truly feel? What society do you hold up by way of
comparison? What argument do you
make? What depth of understanding and
appreciation of Japanese culture did you demonstrate, and with what sensitivity
did you advise them of their great flaw? Why should they be accepting of your new ideas?