Its easy to compare the feminist movement to war, there have been battles waged over territory, skirmishes won and lost in both the courts of law and public opinion. I think the generational gap experienced among feminists, though, is more about which war this is and at what stage.

It would seem the 2nd Gen feminists would compare it to the modern war in Iraq. They see the Next Gen feminists screaming Mission Accomplished with their votes for Obama while seeing Clinton get hit with IEDs (Improvised Electoral Devices aka smear). They see the death of her campaign as just another flagged draped coffin and don't feel the sacrifices she made (and I have no doubt she has made many) has resulted in greater security for any of us.

They see the feminist movement entrenched in guerrilla warfare, facing nameless opposition streaming in from countless sources, trained in sexism and misogyny by hate-mongering men and self-loathing women. They perceive a hostile media and a national culture that resists change.

Next Gen feminists such as myself tend to see more similarities to the Civil War, seeing matters more akin to our own domestic invasion of ourselves rather than an invasion into foreign territory. Again, we have brother against brother, or as we see, sister against sister, with fathers and daughters, mothers and sons and sisters and brothers on both sides of the proverbial Mason-Dixon Line.

But for us the war is essentially over and there is rebuilding to be done, much of it by us. There is no doubt for us that our daughters will come into this world as equal citizens, that their votes will be counted the same as a man, whether it be in the ballot box, the boardroom or even the bedroom. I have and will have equal access to education, to positions of authority, of leadership and can be pretty much anything I choose to be.

The radical change has happened and we, the next generation, have moved on. This was not done by choice but by necessity and by the very nature of progression. We cannot experience many of the trials and heartbreaks you went through because they don't exist anymore. You made them go away and most of what's left are merely inconveniences that we will get through in time, by patience and by merit.

Still, there is a perception that the previous generation is entitled to a reward for their trouble. The disconnect seems to be that many believe Hillary getting the nomination should have been this reward. Instead of her getting the nomination, they got a legion of young, independent women, able to make up their minds, to choose, to live as they see fit.

Yes, that means that some women will choose to go back to the lifestyle you railed against, becoming stay at home moms dependent on their husband's earnings. Others still will be CEOs, doctors, lawyers, construction workers, police and fire fighters, sailors, soldiers, and Marines.

You don't always get to pick what the trophy looks like, just be glad you won.