Or not.

I fail to see what the real problem is. She's not asked to dance and her partner doesn't have a problem with it.

Also, I really don't see how the partner's brother's fiancee's family tradition has any effect on them. If my younger brother fiancee's family had this tradition of me sticking my head in a barrel of water or something totally stupid, I'd tell them to get bent. I respect your traditions and you are more than welcome to perform them at family events, but don't expect me embrace something that I wasn't brought with. If I want to do it, fine. If not, not my problem.

Prudie right on the money with this one. It's not her partner's tradition, it's someone's elses. If he lacks the backbone to say no, excuse yourself for a bathroom break and come back when the dance is over. She should not make any rifts about this. It's not really her problem.

BTW, I have a STRONG feeling this woman does a lot of bitching on the behalf of the partner. Just the feeling SHE feels slighted because her partner has to do the dance and because he's not the type to "rock the boat".

I think the woman feels insulted. For whatever reasons she and her partner have they chose not to get married. However since they are living as a married couple she feels that is how it should be recognized. To have her partner dance the humilation dance doesn't just humiliate him, the one doing the dancing, but in her mind it is also humilating her who will sit on the sidelines, pregnant, believing that she should be considered his wife although they didn't go through the pomp and circumstance of a wedding themselves (or even a quick city hall trip).

His family probably doesn't approve of a common law marriage and are now trying to emphasize the fact.

magicienne:

His family probably doesn't approve of a common law marriage and are now trying to emphasize the fact.

Or, they are respecting the decision of the LW and her BF to not get married by choice - as the LW clearly mentioned - and not pretending as though they were actually married.

evil_robots:

Or, they are respecting the decision of the LW and her BF to not get married by choice - as the LW clearly mentioned - and not pretending as though they were actually married.

I agree. The rest of this thread is highly neurotic.

Hey, I just had a thought. What if visibly pregnant LW gets up and does the Humiliation Tango WITH her partner! That would be hilarious - it would be mocking the dancing nutball family and their nutball traditions right back.

greensleeves:

Hey, I just had a thought. What if visibly pregnant LW gets up and does the Humiliation Tango WITH her partner! That would be hilarious - it would be mocking the dancing nutball family and their nutball traditions right back.

That sounds like something I would do.