Several years ago I joined eHarmony for 6 months and $150. I never received ONE match. After a few months with no matches, I suspiciously asked the friend who told me about it (who happens to be a devout Christian) if it was a Christian-based site, because I had responded "atheist" to the religion query on eHarmony's questionaire. She didn't know. Now I understand the lack of matches. eHarmony should disclose its Christian roots up front so atheists such as myself won't throw our money away.

I tried to join eHarmony when I was starting to date a few years ago. I was irrevocably, permanently separated, no possible chance of reconciliation. eHarmony will not accept separated people on their site. You have to either wait for your divorce to be legally final or else lie, which I am not comfortable doing. Sounds like maybe I got the better end of the deal. I'm married again now, to someone else who, like me, is an eclectic mystical multi-spiritualist. I found him at a community gathering. And so it is.

But what was most frustrating about my eHarmony experience was that they had an hour's worth of questions to answer, and my marital status was about the 10th question, yet they led me through the remaining 55 minutes of interview before letting me know that due to that early answer, I would not be eligible to receive any matches until my divorce, which at that time was still a full year away from happening. (But I could still use their various self-help services - uh - thanks but no thanks.) That seemed really disrespectful to me.

While I did sign up for 2 years, and was their target audience, it was a waste of money. The worst of it was their implication that people would "look on the inside". Bull! They just wanted hard bodies regardless of how "Christian" or "spiritual" they were.

The whole concept of dating is a sucker bet for the guys. Normal dudes pony up all of this stuff, put up with all the yakking, and give all sorts of favors for nothing, while the studs get it coming to them with no effort.

I'm glad to be single, and don't mind being so, because marriage is the double-down sucker bet. All of the same issues as dating, but then she'll eventually walk out with stud, the kids, the house, and you gotta pay that skank for the priviliege?!? (I know because I've been with a married woman before) To heck with that!!!

Do a real cost-benefit analysis, guys. You'll see that its cheaper to go to a strip club or occasionally using escorts than to "wine and dine" some gold-digger.

And if you're one of those genetically blessed, well God bless you. (Really, no hard feelings.) But the rest of us "betas" have to make do with some diginity intact and without resorting to violence.

[Don't bother replying, I make it a point to not read responses to these things.]

I am an atheist, too, and wasted some time on eharmony. I kept getting sent matches that listed Jesus or the bible as one of the five things they would take with them if stranded on an island, no idea why or how eharmony's system matched me up with them! I switched to match.com and dated quite a bit, eventually meeting the man who is now my husband... and also an atheist. :)