Dear Prudence,

I've been going out with a guy for approx. 8 months now. We disagree on some stuff but in general we get along quite well. I really like him and I think he feels the same way too. The problem? He always wants me to do things for him but when I ask for him to do the same for me he just comes up with some lame excuse. I just wish he could do something just for me, showing how much he cares about me. I think he never wanted to please someone before (that's what he said), so how am I suppose to be in a relationship with someone that can't even show me except physically that he really cares?!

You "really like him", but he won't go out of his way to help you? This is not a relationship. This is you getting sucked in to doing everything he wants you to do while he sits on his ass and makes demands.

Dump the moron. If he really like you, he'd make an effort. He isn't doing that. He's making you his bitch.

Wise up.

so how am I suppose to be in a relationship with someone that can't even show me except physically that he really cares?!

If he ignores your needs, he really doesn't love you. Move on so you might find someone who does, before you get pregnant and have to raise his kid all alone.

Treat him the way he does. If he cares he will snap out of it. If he doesn't it means he doesn't really care, and if he doesn't care. Why should you?

Dear First Love,

Read what you wrote as if someone else wrote it. What would be your advice to this person? Isn't this person worth a million more than what this uncaring "boyfriend" shows or gives her? Doesn't she deserve someone to really love her back or return to her the affection she gives him by doing small favors for her too? Should she continue to have sex with a guy who may think sex is love? Is sex love? No it isn't. Safe sexual gratification with someone who is on the same level as you such as a "friend with benefits" can be fun.. Caring about someone who doesn't care about you but wants the sexual favors without the heartfelt attachments is going to get YOU hurt. How do I know? Been there, done that. You are worth a million more than you give yourself credit.