I think I feel sorry for the first LW! Though conventional wisdom says it's a Good Sign when a man introduces a woman to his friends, two less appealing possibilities occur to me....

One, that his lack of desire for one-on-one time indicates she is no more than a piece of arm candy to him - a Token Girlfriend, or possibly even a tool in getting the romantic attentions of the lone female in their group. (Yes, I am a cynic!)

Or, more likely, that he is one of those "Friends" mentality folks who will never, ever, EVER be able to exist without a snug little social network keeping him in his comfort zone -- and, if this is not HER style, she ought to just call it quits now.

Totally agree with your last paragraph and I can tell you from experience that it is most likely the case. These people who cant move out of the "Friends" comfort zone are the ones who end up in their Forties wondering why they never got married.

wow, i see this as more like the guy is not comfortable being alone yet, as his relationship grows with her, the freinds will not be along for every trip, give the guy a chance if you like him, see where it goes, and enjoy getting to know new people and making new friends, believe me if he is a good guy and you like it its worth it!

If the lone female in the group had any romantic interest in him, she would have had years worth of a head start on LW so I doubt he is using LW as his 'tool' to get to his longtime pal. You can learn plenty about people by the friends they hang out with. She should get to know his circle of friends & then decide if she wants to stay with him & his group or move on to somebody who'd prefer more of a one on one type relationship. What's he treat her like when the friends go home?

justhinking:

Totally agree with your last paragraph and I can tell you from experience that it is most likely the case. These people who cant move out of the "Friends" comfort zone are the ones who end up in their Forties wondering why they never got married.

You got that right. I dated a guy who was in a band and lived with two of the band members (both guys). We broke up, because he didn't want to take things to the next level and I sure as hell didn't want to wait around forever. Now the bloke is 35 and still is living the frat house experience.

I totally agree with the comments from Uptight Citizens Brigade! If a man really wants to spend alone time with a woman, he will find a way! I have personal experience with the "token girlfriend guy" and the "friends mentality guy" Only it took me too long to figure it out...rather than try to "steal" him away from his friends, this girl needs to get away from him and his bosom buddies as fast as she can!