In one of your responses this week, you wrote:

Any married woman who dumps her children with their grandmother so she can barhop all night is someone with behavior, marriage, and alcohol problems.

I'd agree with you if you'd added "every weekend" or some similar modifier. But it seems awfully unfair to characterize every married mother who has a rare night out with her girlfriends as a trashy, messed-up drunky.

I'd say that a married woman with children (and married men with children) DESERVE an occasional night off when they can go out with their friends and let their hair down. And I'd argue that leaving the kids with grandparents is one of the more responsible things a parent could do if they were going to have a few drinks. Why does getting married and having children equal giving up every setting foot in a bar again?

Granted, the girl in question here took advantage of a mother she doesn't see very often, and that's wrong. But your broad tar-and-feathering was also off base.

Actually...If we were to assume the way prudy did about this girl...I suppose we could also assume that she didn't actually take advantage of her mom. We could assume that her and she sat one night talking to her girlfriend about how she was going to see her mom, and didn't know how to give her mom some time alone with her children because her husband wasn't coming she wouldn't have anyone to leave with. Then they decided that if the girlfriend came they could go out, and her mom would have some time with the kids.

Not that this is true but assuming things without any evidence is silly. We don't know what this girl was thinking and it's unfair to pass judgement on her.

Anyway. I agree with you. And she probably just needed a night out.

MAYBE....Her husband doesn't let her go out with the girls when she's at home. ;)

And maybe, just maybe, there is a history that husband and grandmom have that we don't that explains why wife/daughter does not go out barhopping with single girlfriends. Everyone is jumping on Gramdma for thinking the worst. Perhaps we shouldn't be passing judgement on Grandma so fast either.