I was skiing with a buddy recently, and I posed the question as we were riding up the chair life of why there weren't any hot 30 something women. There were teenage girls. There were a few banging 50-ish women. Why nobody our age? He said, "They're all on the bunny hill with the kids."

He was right! They were all on the bunny hill with the kids.

So I can understand why, after the thousands of diapers and hours of Spongebob Squarepants, they'd want to go out for empty compliments from horny males and waiting in hour-long lines for bathrooms with a half-inch of toilet water on the floor. I can see that, and think the mom in the first letter should try to understand.

And for all you moms out there doing the good work, just know that guys are still checking you out from the chair lift.

Happy Mothers Day!

Hopefully the husbands of the hot moms on the bunny hill (that sounds way dirtier than it is. . . ) are still making them feel like they still have it. After a hellish day on site yesterday and a bad morning, my husband telling me I looked pretty meant a lot. The fact that he didn't use any of the pregnancy pretty terms or say pretty despite the 30 extra pounds - all the better.

I must say that I know several attractive 30-something single women, though. They just are more likely to still be on the bunny hill with their married girlfriends and their kids than in the bar.

You always know how to melt all the ladies' hearts, don't ya?! LOL

Could you introduce me to a couple? I haven't met any attractive 30-something single women in a long time. Well, except for here on DP.
;-)

Tilia:

... he didn't use any of the pregnancy pretty terms ...

You look radiant, Tilia, truly you do. I love what you've done with your hair, and your face is so full of life and joy. It sparkles, really, when you smile.

Thanks Fitzpatrick, although I'm beginning to think "glowing" is to a pregnant woman what "you have a pretty face" is to a fat chick.

You forgot she's glowing.

My husband would say "you're glowing" and I would say "yeah, like a toxic waste dump."

Wish I could - there is a dearth of respectable 30-something single guys around here, it seems. I've lost count of the number of really lousy dates my friends have been on.

one of those hottie, off the grid mommies soon, Tilia!

I can appreciate this is a difficult age for women. It's kind of a fork in the road. I have to admit that I didn't really notice it while it was happening. I think back about 5 years, and it seems like every girl around me was about my age. Now most seem to be older or younger-- and especially younger. I guess I shouldn't complain. ha!

Mind you, I'm not looking, just noticing ;)

I really mean it!

That's no secret. That's just good upbringing.

Yggy - nothing wrong with looking! Hell, my own mother (pushing 60 and married for 36 years) still says "If you don't look, you're dead!"

You're right about the fork in the road. I wasn;t in that position, thankfully. Fate intervened on random Sunday at the gym 6+ years ago and things just took a different course for me. Several of my friends, however, are in that situation now. Early 30's or almost 30 and suddenly dating takes on a new dimension. The great Fertility Divide (35) is suddenly a lot closer than we thought and I see a lot of reassessing and calculating. I hate to see people rushing committment in relationships that seem questionable, or throwing away good things because they aren't moving fast enough, but both seem to be perils of this age/phase. But then, who am I to judge? Plenty of people thought my husband and I were rushing when we got engaged w/in a year of meeting. There's cruel irony in that - I never really worried about the biological clock. Adoption was always very valid in my mind, and here I am, married for 4 1/2 years, got pregnant very easily while friends to whom biological reproduction matters much more are finding themselves w/o the luxury of time.

When are you due Tilia? I am due in October with my second. That's very sweet that your husband is complimentary! Enjoy every minute of it!

Bars lose their appeal for most 30 something women- it's just boring and dull to see the same idiots get drunk and do the same stupid things every weekend after a while.

I'm due in August and carrying all out in front and high, so I look really big for 6 months, to myself at least. It's funny because my legs really don't look different and my face isn't that much different, but my profile is so alien to me! My husband is really very sweet about all of it. Good luck with your pregnancy!

I was done with the bar scene by the time I was out of college. I just had had enough of it. My husband and I used to go watch his friend's band play when we were dating and first married, but even that lost appeal after a while. I'm glad most of my friends are done with it now too.

That's how I carried my first baby as well. People say that when you carry high, you're having a girl. I did have a girl, but old wives' tales are really just guesses. I am carrying this one high and upfront as well, but I am only 4 months along so who knows. I hope you live somewhere north and won't have to deal with the HOT summer being super-pregnant!

Almost all of my friends were done with bars shortly after college as well. I personally went to grad school at night and worked full time after college, so I missed out on the bar scene in my early 20's. I started going again about 30 and it only took me about 6 months to get bored. You end up meeting long term drunks and 20 somethings who think it's funny that they black out every weekend and can't remember what they did. How is that fun to NOT even remember if you had fun? Of course, not everyone is in the category.

One girl in particular told me how everyone in her house had passed out and someone left food in a pot on a lit stove. Of course, it eventually started to burn and catch fire. The fire alarms went off and smoke filled the house. The fire dept came and got them all out. They were LUCKY to escape. This girl was unphased and thought, ha ha, we were so wasted we didn't know there was a fire, how funny! I was shocked at how she could think that passing out in a fire was humorous in any way.

So to the guy who wants to know where the hot 30 somethings and early 40 somethings are- we are everywhere else either having kids or playing with our kids. To be brutally honest- it's much more fun and rewarding than being in bars and getting hit on by drunks and losers. I am not saying the guy is a loser or a drunk, just answering why bars are usually not the place to pick up 30 and 40 somethings.