don't ever lie to your guy and tell him "you're so big", even if its some guy taking a survey for human nature.

as a reward for your lie, the gentleman in question is likely to respond with the truth . . . "you are too, hon"

Like Lake Wobegon, we all want to be above average

It is the American Way.

Two ways to build a man's ego: 1. They all even up anally 2. lose that gag reflex and show him how much you love him.

why are so many men fascinated (dare i say 'hooked') on forms of sex other than vaginal intercourse?

I have to ask, have you learned to enjoy yourself while having other forms of sex like anal and oral? The vagina is not the be all end all. The orgasm is not hardwired for an insert only plug.

. . . we'd all try different brands of the same flavor. It's natural for men (all humans, actually, but the need as it exists in men is more highly publicized) to use, even require, small markers that help differentiate today from yesterday.

It goes both ways, of course. As a local sex columnist here in Seattle says, oral sex comes standard . . . for both genders.

Besides, something like 30% of women are unable to orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. And that's just as reported; based on my experience, the real percentage is most likely higher. Oral sex for women is just a matter of fairness; once you've introduced it, though, you've all but admitted that sex requires a broadening of horizons and a massive boost in creativity.