GET A LIFE!!!

I am getting married in 4 1/2 months, and guess what? My mother is wearing a dress that sounds somewhat similar to your future mother-in-law's! The straps arent spaghetti style and its not light blue, but it is flowing, with a v-neck and pretty sexy. And I am THRILLED that she will be wearing something figure flattering and atrractive on "my" day. When we went shopping she tried on a few "mother of the bride" numbers and they were horrifying. Why should she be stuck wearing a suit or some Bea Arthur a la Golden Girls style dress? The rest of my guests will be wearing outfits appropriate for a cocktail party, so why shouldnt my mom?

The only conversation I had with my futher mother-in-law about her own dress was to let her know what my mom would be wearing. And that was purely to get the message across that I didnt expect her to wear something ugly and unflattering simply because she happens to be the groom's mom.

You need to take it down a notch before your groom to be realizes what a selfish, insecure nightmare you are.

I don't want to be as harsh, but I pretty much agree with this thread. My own mother wore a very "blah" dress to my brother's wedding - a cream-colored suit jacket over long dress. She didn't ask for my help in choosing it, so when I saw it I was pretty disappointed. She wouldn't go for spaghetti straps and cleavage, but she definitely could have picked something with a nicer color (robin's egg blue, perhaps?) and showed some life!

On the flip-side, I've also been to a wedding where the mother of the groom went all out - sparkly royal blue strapless dress with a sheer shawl. To be honest, she doesn't have the perfect body - she looks her age. But she LOVED wearing it and that, coupled with sending her only son off into marriage, made her SO happy. Some of the more conservative guests at the wedding were suprised at her choice of attire, but after seeing her work it on the dance floor, no one could say she wasn't having the time of her life.

And yes, it's your (and your groom's) wedding, but you've included all these people - parents, siblings, etc. - because they've helped form who you are, meet your perfect match, and get to this happy place. So really, it's their day too, don't you think?

P.S. - I personally think that when attendants and parents and siblings ALL coordinate their attire, they end up looking like robots. So don't worry, you're going to stand out no matter what. It's not like the guests will forget what and who they're celebrating.

...and what would they be celebrating in this case? A crazy wench and her controlling ego?

You're exactly right in that this is a family event, with family and friends, for family and friends--otherwise, why not just elope and allow the LR to be alone with her sucker groom and her overinflated sense of importance.

I don't know if my response to this has any relevance to the subject at hand but thank freaking goodness I'm not a woman!!!

If I worried about the things many women worry about I would go insane and bury myself alive, for heaven's sake!

Philistine, be grateful you're not a woman! A lot of the BS we have to go thru, and put up with, well, I just don't have the time and space to get into it here.

I'm just grateful I don't even KNOW this Bridezilla. Dealing with certain relatives and co-workers takes up too much of my psychic energy as it is. I couldn't be in this "woman's" wedding party without telling her to stuff it.

Sounds like things were going too good and the bride and her mother needed a reason to flip out.

I always thought that blue was the color the mother of the groom wore to a wedding....

But hmmmm, a man may soon be on the market and my future mother is a caring person...what was the groom's name?