I think Scott Adams of Dilbert fame is right on this one.

Posters below have mentioned engineering school as a good way for women to meet good men. Thing is, not many engineers are as "exciting".

Many drive practical cars, live within their means, don't engage in overly risky behavior, and have a distressing habit of having hobbies that involve computers, World of Warcraft and Star Trek.

(Or Stargate SG-1 and Battlestar Galactica since, as we all well know, 'trek tanked with Enterprise. Plus Warhammer Online, with it's RvR content, should blow WoW away in PvP.)

Of course, they make good $$$, are reliable as hell, and could teach their children better than a "real" teacher could.

Now that bartender, player, "actor" or "musician" who you go home with one day for that night of wild monkey sex knows exactly what lies to tell...er...what to say to give you that emotional rush required for him to, well, bang you.

Problem is he'll bang your sister as well and can't balance his own checkbook or pay his bills on time to save his life.

It's also why a lot of women say they want nice guys but pursue assholes; assholes are "exciting" in a way while nice, stable guys, who you don't have to fix, and more "boring".

Perhaps the problem is that the way we meet mates, dating, sucks. It's practice for divorce where if you get bored, you move on.

It's silly to expect that you can act like a phony until the other person loves you for who you really are, but that's what dating is.

50%+ failture rate, right?

Right on. Of course, a lot of the issue here is that the women in question probably want both -- the men who have all the excitement of the bartender/musician/whatever, but with the stability of the engineer. Those men are few and far between anyway. And they probably were snapped up early on, because somebody else saw their attractiveness.

Don't give the "bad boy" a mystique. The only reason a girl goes home with that type of guy is because she's chaotic and not worth dating. Not every girl wants to sleep with a guy she can't trust. The ones who do.. have serious emotional problems. Sure, that makes 'em amazing in the sack - but those are girls who aren't stable enough for reliable guys.

If you meet a girl who actually thinks this way, run. It's easy to say "there's other chicks in the sea" but sometimes hard to actually feel that way.

People are single for a reason.. there's nothing magical about the bad boy that transcends any other personality trait. He's simply horrible at relating to people.

Why do some young girls go for that guy? Not because of his irreverence. They go after him because they think they can CHANGE him into a good guy. Once that chick is around 25 and has had her heart broken by a few bad boys, she'll finally realize that people don't change.. and look for nice guys.

I tend the agree. I recall a party at a science fiction convention a few years back. There were 10 men for every woman. A cute girl (but by no means georgeous) scoped out the room and then made it real clear she was interested in me. Offered the chance for sex and companionship, I took the bait. We've been married 12 years.

About the way it was for me and my husband. Walked into the engineering study lounge, found the guy I wanted, and have been married to him for 5.5 years

"About the way it was for me and my husband. Walked into the engineering study lounge, found the guy I wanted, and have been married to him for 5.5 years"

Sounds just like a car I bought. Walked onto the lot, found the car I wanted and bought it. The car had no say in the matter. Drove it for five years and then divorced sold it.

I feel sorry for your husband.