Way too frickin' cute.

Didn't the women get the augmentation in order to be noticed? Stop complaining when people notice!

Or, hmm, perhaps some women have these surgeries in order to feel better about themselves, not in order to impress others. Being proud of having a lovely rack is one thing--having to deal with people shamelessly staring and commenting about it incessantly is an entirely different arena. I hope that you never have a female friend who has cosmetic surgery. I'd hate to think that you'd be out there, throwing out random comments about her breasts, perhaps even in public. Tact-less.

Not every female gets breast augmentation in order to be noticed. Some women who have BREAST CANCER ends up getting breast augmentation so they can look and feel normal. If the woman had cancer she then ended up getting breast augmentation, as she said," and there is a noticeable difference". That doesn't sound like someone who wanted to get bigger breasts because she wanted to be noticed. She might not want people outside her family know she has/had cancer.

So dhornsby get a clue, not all women like it when guys stare at their chest and comment on it. As a female with large breast myself I can tell you I hate it, and yes they are real.

The letter writer doesn't state she got breast augmentation, she states she got breast enhancement and that the difference is noticeable. If she wanted to return to her normal appearance after surviving breast cancer, why didn't she mention that in her letter? If she enhanced her breasts and did so in such a fashion that it is distinctly noticeable, then I don't see much room for her complaints about people noticing.

In other words, if she didn't want to be noticed, then why get such a noticeable procedure? I think this writer is as narcissistic as the college graduates who want nothing but positive reinforcement and financial assistance: She wants attention and the right to complain about it.

I myself wouldn't stare or comment though. I would quietly think to myself, "Ick. Fake boobs."

Nobody should feel they need surgery to 'feel better about themselves' (especially augmenting breasts which WILL GROW at different rates for different women). Larger breasts attract male attentions whether they make a woman 'feel better about herself' or not. They definately grow during pregnancy to take care of their business of nursing the future baby. Tact level varies from man to man, but most every man that isn't blind notices when the 'bee bites' grow into a 'super rack' virtually overnight! (the grow rate being typically slower) Women would be better off finding other ways to feel better about themselves if unwanted male attention would present a problem for them. Give them time & they should grow out for you without surgery...

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Caveat: I hate needles, and doubt I ever would do any optional surgical procedure without a doctor actually recommending I do so for medical reasons.

However, her reasons for having this surgery are essentially irrelevant. I doubt it was for medical reasons, or it seems it would have come out in the letter, unless that was editted out.

Rude is rude. It's one thing to compliment someone, and another to be crass. I don't know what generation the people responding to this are, for the most part, nor that of the LW & the ones commenting to her. However, "boob job" isn't normally a term one brings up to another person, unless you've discussed it before the procedure or you are discussing your own.

They could say she's "had something done," or "look different", or has "changed." I can't imagine commenting on someone's nose job, in so many words, and noses are literally out there for everyone to see.

Some people are just uncomfortable with attention, while at the same time wanting to look their best. A woman might cut her hair from long to short suddenly, because she's decided it would look better. However, that doesn't mean she really wants all the attention of everyone's comments. It's not rude to make those comments, but some women might find it unwelcome. Cosmetic surgery is much more effort than a haircut, but both can change a person's personal image.

(and depending on what kind of attention or comment one gets, the rude factor is debatable), the one thing that won't wash with me is the ridiculous notion of people getting unneeded cosmetic surgery to feel better about themselves. i can be sympathetic to that kind of reasoning only if someone has an issue that was getting unwanted notice and comments BEFORE the surgery, not after.

For example, someone that has a huge cyst or a hairy mole on a prominent part of their body- something that could actually be considered a physical imperfection. and, sure, that can be subjective at times. but if you consider small breasts an imperfection, chances are you have other issues at play- and i would think that at least part of them have to do with men.

Perhaps there are a few adult women out there who ridicule the small breasted- i don't know; but the majority of adult women don't care about other women's breast size and don't discuss how small other women's breasts are. So the issue would either have to come from onesself or from one's perception of what men want, etc...

Am i wrong?

"Perhaps there are a few adult women out there who ridicule the small breasted- i don't know; but the majority of adult women don't care about other women's breast size and don't discuss how small other women's breasts are."

True, very true, most women don't comment openly or publicly about another woman's breasts (unless of course if they're gossiping about someone's "breast enhancement".)

However, that doesn't mean we don't get an earful, eyeful and head-full about what our breasts should look like on a daily basis. Hell, how about an hourly basis? How many tv moms have a "great rack"? How many pert and perky reminders are there on billboards, magazines, tv and movies about how well we do (or more often don't) measure up?

I wrote about my own issues in another thread, so I won't repeat them here. Still, it is a sad but true fact that many women have negative views of their own body. The LW may have felt she was correcting something wrong (that to us would seem perfectly fine) and to have attention drawn to it can be mortifying to say the least.

Should she feel that way? No, of course not. Does she feel that way? Yes, yes she does. What she wrote for was how to deal with the unwanted attention. Did she get the advice she needed? I have no idea.

Having been blessed by nature with an awesome rack, let me point out to the LW that when you have big boobs, men stare at them. I haven't been looked in the face by a man since I was13.

Apparently a lot of crematoriums require silicone implants to be removed before cremating, because they can explode. So you could end up being a jar of ashes and two fake boobs.

Just a little trivia.

the woman you describe needs therapy, not surgery. period.

while, like everyone else, i have had body issues- breast size has never been one of them. but i understand not liking something on my body. i also realize that it has to do with my way of thinking and not my body itself. so i wouldn't choose to get surgery.

people with low self esteem tend to think that they will feel better if they can get positive feedback from others. but this is a lie that one tells oneself. something like thinking your breasts are too small is usually part of a larger issue that should be addressed before you make a decision to undergo something as dangerous as surgery, imho.

i'm not against cosmetic surgery, btw. just think that you should do it for the right reasons, with the right realistic mentality and fully aware of the dangers involved.

deduction:

Perhaps there are a few adult women out there who ridicule the small breasted- i don't know; but the majority of adult women don't care about other women's breast size and don't discuss how small other women's breasts are. So the issue would either have to come from onesself or from one's perception of what men want, etc...

Am i wrong?

Well, ridicule may be strong, but as a small-breasted woman, I'll tell you that it's not unusual for me to receive comments from other women about my chest. It's not that women stop me on the street to point and call attention to my general lack, but it's in the form of subtle comments like "well, you have to be curvy to wear something like that," (actually I am curvy, just not on top), or in the case of store sales clerks "you're not very big, are you?"

I could and do write those people off as tactless idiots, who clearly have their own issues to deal with, but the fact is, over the course of a life time, these things can add up and affect your attitude towards yourself. Not to mention the near constant images of breasts that surround us -- all the "bones and boobs" models out there and the tryanny of the D cup on television makes a woman feel that to have full breasts is the defining feature of a woman's life.

Men, on the other hand, tend to comment on my nice ass, or my pretty eyes and beautiful smile. I'd have to say that in some ways men are more forgiving of an "imperfect" figure than women are.