Run, dude, run, as in 'run, Forrest, run'. It seems many women take it for granted that men will bend over backwards adjusting to them after marriage, though they loathe to adjust to men because, as they many times believe they have no requirement to adjust out of their comfort zone. This is part of the reason the divorce rate today is skyrocketing. Marriage today for many men becomes servitude and sitting at the back of the bus, and not having the 'right' to express one's opinion freely and openly and getting respect from one's wife. Women generally demand respect but don't do too well reciprocating these days. Why would any man sign up for a lifetime of nagging, one-up-manship, and walking on 'egg shells'? We can be miserable by ourselves, we don't need a woman to make us so. Asking another women (Dear Prudence) for advice in this area is a questionable idea, in my opinion. Talk to other men, women have NO idea what makes a man tick. Although women generally believe they are experts about men since we are 'so easy to figure out' and only have sex on our minds every 15 seconds. Cocky, untrue, sexist, and absurd. Watching the situation comedy "The King of Queens" is supposed to be funny but is probably accurate insight into how many women view their husbands; we are ninnies, cannot wipe our own noses, and could not survive a day without 'her' guidance. I call it the 'wussification of men in America', without being too harsh. Read the following book, my man, "The Hazards of Being Male, Surviving the Myth of Masculine Privilege"; author: Herb Golberg, Ph.D. Good luck. Talking with your current partner about your concerns should provide you all the feedback you need to make an informed decision about YOUR future. If she is receptive, willing to compromise, and give a little, great. If not...run, Forrest, run.

It's nice to know there are people out there that are noticing this recent trend. In their quest for equal treatment, women have consciously or unconsciously been declaring themselves as the superior sex. Unfortunately, for some odd reason too many men have been buying into this ridiculous concept.

I just wish to remind you men out there, that YES we CAN take care of ourselves. NO we do NOT need a woman to pick up after us. Nor are they here for the sole purpose of serving to our every need either.

Learn to take care of yourself. Do not allow a woman to constantly take care of your every need. In the past men used their economic dominance in a relationship to control women. We no longer have that power, and now women have been using their domestic dominance against us, and for good reason. I mean, if they are out making money and at the same time taking care of the house, they will want you to do the same no?

Blah Blah Blah. Yeah I know many guys like you describe, who marry nagging, mean spirited wives. But in every single case, they should have been able to see it a million miles before the marriage altar. If you marry into a bad situation, than that is your fault for deciding to get married to someone you weren't sure of and weren't compatible with.

Also, the reason many guys get walked on is because they become whiny like you 2 are. Maybe stop being so whiny and start standing up for yourself and you won't get walked all over. But don't expect it to happen in a day. Respect takes time. You need to start regaining your manhood (if you ever had it to begin with) a little bit each day.

Every single case??? No woman anywhere, ever, has thought that unless she hides that 'inner-nag', only slowly releasing her as the level of relationship-commitment increases, she'll never get that ring? I'm not so sure.

As for the "like you 2 are" and "(if you ever had it to begin with)", I wonder if the irony is lost... a conversation about nagging, ball-busting women is apparently put to rest by the 'keep men in their place' tactic (and a tired one at that) of calling out their manhood. Very sad.