Were a tired housewife to gripe about the terrible conditions she is under trying to raise her toddler in a post Prudy would be there with a gallon of sympathy-but let a man say he is tired from eight hours of work and who knows how long a commute and he is the Stalin of parenthood for not having energy to be a babysitter the moment he walks in the door so his wife can kick off her shoes and watch Oprah. But does it stop there? Nope. If a woman wrote how her husband has a "friend", another woman who he was once deeply in love with who he wants to see as a friend a few times a month, no doubt Prudie would be warning her about her player husband and tell the woman to get a good attorney because all men are pigs. But let the shoe be on the other foot and the man is a paranoid neathernderthal for daring to suspect there might be more than a friendship. In this readers opinion, Prudie cannot give objective advice where the actions and thoughts of men are concerned. She is there as a "sistah" to the women who seek advice but no man can even think to hear anything but criticism and cynacism where men are concerned. I recommend men seek their advice elsewhere and women realize that while Prudie may give them sympathy the advice is at best got a tainted source.

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Perhaps a loaf of garlic bread so he can give it to his dollar counting girlfriend as a belated Valentine's gift. Then she will have something to write to Prudie about.

LOL!!!

How many times have women needed to worry about being traded in for an OLDER model?

Yes, men should know our places shouldnt we. Wage slaves who provide the food and the shelter for the family and the daycare at night too.

No wonder we die first.

But please dont ask us to buy into Prudie. None of us will make it to fifty without living on the sidewalk paying child support and alimony to her little collection of drama queens who have a mission-land a man and live it up.

The Real RML:

But please dont ask us to buy into Prudie. None of us will make it to fifty without living on the sidewalk paying child support and alimony to her little collection of drama queens who have a mission-land a man and live it up.

Actually, if you've read some of the other threads, you'll notice that there are several male posters who agree that the dad needs to spend a bit more time with his child.

Be careful with those extreme, blanket statements.

You missed my point entirely. For most women, this situation wouldn't be about him being an old lover as much as it was his being an old friend. Men apparently have a harder time separating the sex from the relationship after the fact. Women have a harder time separating the two as long as the physical is going on. ("He must love me. We're having SEX!")

Men frequently dump wives or girlfriends for younger ones, or prettier ones, or better endowed ones, or whatever. Women may dump men for newer models, but not for significantly older. Unless this guy is filthy stinkin' rich, it's unlikely the wife is going to dump a 20 year marriage for him. He'd be in his 70s plus however many years between her breaking up with him and her marrying the husband there were. Even if he were a stimulating conversationalist, etc., it's highly unlikely she'd still see him as a lover, no matter what prescriptions he takes.

IncogNeato:

Even if he were a stimulating conversationalist, etc., it's highly unlikely she'd still see him as a lover, no matter what prescriptions he takes.

...for making me snort my diet coke...

My nasal membranes may take some time to recover.

My point remains the same.

Had some bimbo SAHM complained of having to watch her kid even after her husband gets home from a 12 hour day at work, the husband would be some lowlife with no appreciation for how hard her day is playing with the kid, changing diapers and watching tv while the kid naps.

I agree the father should want to spend time with the kid. And I am willing to bet the problem has a lot to do with the fact that he gets the kid when she is tired and so is he and he probably has no idea how to best play with her-cant relate. Prudie of course cant resist the chance to beat the guy before complimenting him on seeking help.

The old boyfriend thing speaks for itself. She admitted she once had a deep romance with the old coot-old or not deep is deep. Not all infidelity is sexual. Sex doesnt occuppy 24 hours a day-companionship is one of the main reasons for marriage. Again if it was the man looking to spend more time with an ex girl friend anyone wanna bet Prudie would be telling the wife he was up to no good?

Well actually. No one is worried about her dumping her husband for the old man. What people are worried is that she's having an emotional affair with this man, which is just as bad as a physical one. The other thing people are worried about is that she's neglecting her own husband and family for this old flame.

About the working father/SAHM:

I had suggested elsewhere that his best time with her might be int he morning. Getting her up, feeding her breakfast, and telling her goodbye while she's fresh. Mom can take over after he leaves. And he needs "couple time" with his wife, without the child. Also, that Mom may well be a neurotic, helicopter-mom-in-training, who believes no one can watch the child but her or her husband, and that even he doesn't do it "right." This would certainly discourage someone from bonding with his child. If she is like that, all bets are off. Otherwise, he needs to suck it up and find a way to try to relate to his child.

You can speculate all day long, but a real argument for Prudie's sexism would involve citations of sexist statements she has made, rather than words that you put in her mouth.

Anyone can win an argument if they get to make up all the facts. Try a straight approach and maybe you'll convince someone of something.

Prudie is writing for highly liberal website and is unlikely to come out OPENLY saying all men are pigs, etc.

It emerges in her advice all the time. A constant double standard whereby men are always the victimizers, women always the victims. In addition, men are positioned as to have no feelings or emotions-a good thing since any evidence of them are positioned as proof of being a neanderthal, over possessive, jealous, paranoid, etc.

So basically since Prudie doesn come out and say "I hate all men except my well conditioned obedient and dutiful husband" you will say it is all in my mind. A few years of her posts are my research and my conclusions are based on the weight of many statements vs open admissions of her sexist/anti male agenda.

The Real RML:

Prudie is writing for highly liberal website and is unlikely to come out OPENLY saying all men are pigs, etc.

It emerges in her advice all the time. A constant double standard whereby men are always the victimizers, women always the victims. In addition, men are positioned as to have no feelings or emotions-a good thing since any evidence of them are positioned as proof of being a neanderthal, over possessive, jealous, paranoid, etc.

So basically since Prudie doesn come out and say "I hate all men except my well conditioned obedient and dutiful husband" you will say it is all in my mind. A few years of her posts are my research and my conclusions are based on the weight of many statements vs open admissions of her sexist/anti male agenda.

RML... there have been many posters (female as well as male) who have sometimes stated that Prudie's advice is anti-male and sexist.

But when you vomit superlatives as you have on this topic, it lowers your credibility.