How about those woman that tell a guy that they are on the pill or protected from getting pregnant and really aren't? A guy that I know met someone and after a really bad divorce just wanted something casual. Granted, he should have been smart enough to be protected too, but took it for granted when she said that she was.

Now they are having a baby together. He doesn't love her, most of the time doesn't like her, she doesn't make him happy and is trying to stay with her for the baby. She waited 6 weeks before she told him about the baby and only after he told her that he didn't want to see her anymore because he was in love with someone else.

She has a son from a similar situation and seems to think that this is the only way to get a guy. She's in her mid to late 20's and should know better and is getting ready to graduate with a degree in Child and Family Services. Go figure!

Hopefully he can talk the women into getting an abortion, otherwise he has to pay the child support.

This is what I'm talking about. some women out there are so intent to marry that they'll trap a man to do it. That's the problem. If society and people in general didn't look down on single mothers or women who aren't married then women wouldn't have to go to such drastic measures and do horrible things like this. I know many women who'd rather be married even to the wrong man than be single because of the stigma of being a single woman/grow into an old maid

I told my sons when they were young that women have the power. Some use it for good, some use it for evil. I told them to always use birth control...even if she said she was because some women think children equal income. Some think babies will bring them income so they don't have to work.

I truly don't know what women are thinking but men better wake up. They and their children are quickly becoming victims of unprincipled women.

Good luck and wrap that rascal! My son is expecting with his girlfriend and he said she didn't understand consequences....neither did he because they were both there and no one used any birth control. Pretty simple...no rubber, no sex!!

Both men and women should protect themselves, if you dont' want a baby, cover it up, so he wasn't concerned about catching STD's or AID, just mad about the baby.

ok fine. but where is the accountability in all this for the men? they say that men are the ones with the higher sex drives/need for sex. and if you truly fdon't want a child get a vasectomy.

My ex was sterile and told he was unable to have children. Is it my fault he didn't use a condom?

Well, when you have married women who drop out of the workforce when they have "children" can set a bad example for the single woman who hates her job. She may see that the only way out of a job that she hates is to get married and have babies, so that she can be a housewife. This can cause great pressure for the girl to hurry up and get married, so she'll try to get pregnant so that she can trap the guy to marry her so she can be a housewife, especially if he makes a good income. Of course you don't see ten or fifteen years down the line, where these women are divorced, unable to find a decent job because she's been out of the workforce for so long and struggling to make ends meet. While her ex is married to a younger woman not worrying about the bills.

He was not "caught in a trap"... he behaved irresponsibly and is now having to pay the price.

My ex was sterile and told he was unable to have children. Is it my fault he didn't use a condom?

This is a joke, right? Unless you were raped, you ALLOWED him to have sex with you without using a condom so yes.... it is your fault. Regardless of the fact you assumed he was sterile, getting pregnant is not the worst thing that can happen when you have unprotected sex... You are very lucky you didn't end up with something far more dangerous than a baby.

I agree with you and I'm even apalled at some Christians who advocate marrying someone who might be wrong for them as long as they share the same faith, so that they could be married and have babies. That could be one reason for the high divorce rate, since the women are so eager to be married and are afraid of being an old maid that they would marry someone that they're not in love with. This could be a diaster if one of them does meet their true love. I think that we need to teach our young girls that its okay if you don't get married and have children.

Well, when you have married women who drop out of the workforce when they have "children" can set a bad example for the single woman who hates her job. She may see that the only way out of a job that she hates is to get married and have babies

This is almost too stupid to deserve a reply but... Anyone who thinks this way deserves what she gets. The fact that I chose to stay home with my children rather than continuing to work was my personal choice. And I will not take responsibility for this "single woman who hates her job" and her stupidity.

I didn't assume he was sterile. I went to the doctor with him when he was tested. I was there when the doctor told him he could never have children. And I was married to him so it was not out of wedlock. but he didn't want children and that's why we got divorced

kitty . . . . are you reading what you wrote? Are you from out of space? I agree that there are some women out there that very well may be getting pregnant on purpose so they can stay home . . . . but more so on welfare, because as much as I would LOVE to be an at home mother (and just because I want to be home with my children) I HAVE to work full time to help pay for the necessities of life. How dare you insinuate such a thing that a woman who stays home with her children only had children so they COULD stay home? That's ludicrous!

That wasn't what she was saying at all. she was agreeing with me that society puts pressure on women to get married. so much so that it's possible a woman can get so desperate that she'll marry a man without being choosey about it in order to avoid being alone and an old maid. If more young women were given the message that it was ok to be umarried or a single mom then less women like the above mentioned would exist. we all know women who are in unhappy marriages and who prolly chose the wrong men to marry.

but he didn't want children and that's why we got divorced

I am very sorry, then... I misunderstood. And he was a JERK! lol And I am glad to know he won't have a huge part in shaping the mind of an impressionable child. My hat's off to you for choosing to raise the child alone. And I do hope you will have better luck in the future in finding someone you can spend your life with who treats you as you deserve.

Please do not let the actions of this one man color your opinion of all men. There are plenty of good ones out there.