I would like to add to this problem. There seems to be growing number of women who go astray from a stable home, devoted husband, financial security, etc. In turn they go looking for the "greener" pastures, and of course take the kids. It would also seem that the person she moves in with, and never marries, is basically a dead beat. Naturally she turns around and sues her ex husband for child support, and almost always, the court rules in favor of the so called mother. Then after all that is over, she gets knocked up out of wedlock, collects welfare, he gives another address but is actually living under her roof. Not to mention he is enjoying the cash flow from the divorce. Why doesn't our elected officials on capitol hill attempt to reverse this trend. Not to point any fingers but our friends on one side of the aisle claim to be for family values. Here is the opportunity to save money and restore values in the home.

The women don't always take the kids with them. Sometimes they'll leave their husbands because they don't want to be a wife and mother anymore. This could be a case of the woman getting married too young and she wants to experience what she's missed out on.

This has occured to two families I know. The women got bored and left the family. Of course the 'new guy' is a deadbeat. They don't work or pay any bills and the women each got the deadbeat a car. All just for 'love' (dick).

Both women claim their husbands didn't give them romance. Hey, I don't know what happened so that might be true, but does this women really need someone to pay her bills?

I say she gets support for three months and that is it. Let Dick get a job and pay for their new life. Yea, Dick would be finding a new hole in a few weeks!

Alright . . . . that one was kind of funny. I give ya that . . . . and I feel for these guys, because I KNOW there are jerky women out there who choose a dead-beat over a loving husband. Life is not just about Romance . . . . and commitment isn't always about love. Love helps, but there are bound to be times when you don't "love" your spouse . . . . like when you're really mad at him. And love is not just a feeling . . . . it's an action.

Anyway, not all women are like that . . . . and the court does the best they can for the children. My first husband left me for another woman while I was practically jobless and in the middle of nursing school. He said that I had abandonded him when I decided to get educated . . . of course, he wasn't willing to actually get a better job, himself. So I finished school, got a job, and got divorced. That loser gives me $40 a week (total) for 2 children. I have to give him credit, though. He has his visitation and is consisitent with it. I refuse to bad-mouth him to the children, because they love him. I know he loves them, too . . . . . but loving them and being a good parent are 2 seperate things. I am remarried to an incredible man. Had it not been for my previous husband and experiences with him, I would not appreciate what I have, today.

For those of you . . . fathers and mothers . . . who are struggling and feel that the other is living it up . . . . take heart. You're biggest responsibility is loving and raising your children. It is also your reward.

Men have been leaving their wives and families for hundreds of years. Sooo... please! I'm not saying what these women do is right, but come on! Are you throwing up a double standard?