Emily, what I think this boils down to is just another example of you acting the Smug Married.

I can't find a man to love me. Maybe I'm weird looking, or I have a terrible personality, or maybe I can't meet any nice men. It doesn't really matter.

Why would you have me live my life alone, with no family whatsoever?

Why would you wish that on anyone?

It's lovely for you that you've found happiness with a fellow, but wedlock should not be a prerequisite to starting a family.

Unbelieveable.

Wedlock NOT be a prerequisite to starting a family? Why on earth not? It's been that way for centuries and for good reason! And never mind "shoulds & shouldn'ts" because that is not reality.

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Emily, what I think this boils down to is just another example of you acting the Smug Married.

I can't find a man to love me. Maybe I'm weird looking, or I have a terrible personality, or maybe I can't meet any nice men. It doesn't really matter.

Why would you have me live my life alone, with no family whatsoever?

Why would you wish that on anyone?

It's lovely for you that you've found happiness with a fellow, but wedlock should not be a prerequisite to starting a family.

So what your saying is that having a child will fulfill your familial needs? That you should be able to have a child, out-of-wedlock, so that child can fill some right you seem to think your entitled to? What of the child? His or her needs as he/she grows up. Will you ever tell that child that he or she was conceived for the sole purpose of giving you some company in life? Now that is sad!

Wow! People on the Internet can be very cruel and judgemental. What a surprise. Like Yoffe, you seem to believe you are qualified to judge others. What was it that Christ said about judging others?

Okay some are judging, but others have viable opinions. Emily never said not to have a child out of wedlock, she just said it is eaiser to have children with two instead of one. Also, about finding a man...he is out there you just have to look in the right places, try to grocery store, or the farmers market, or something along those lines. The minute you start giving up on finding a man.....you will never be able to find one.