okay fine... you got knocked up because you were irresponsible (thats the cold truth - like it or not) instead of raising a child in a home that is unstable and offers little hope for the childs future success why not give the child up for adoption to MARRIED couples with STABLE homes.

be adult enough (after the fact) that you cant take care of yourself (birth control) let alone a child.

stop being selfish and do what is best for the baby

That's the funniest thing I've ever heard. Thanks!

Wow. You really are jaded.

funny? no, what is funny - and by funny i mean SAD - is how quickly these children will end up in situations just like their so-called parents if they are not given to suitable homes.

they are people, not dolls. its not a game, Miss.

All I have to say is read what I wrote for an opinion. What I see in your opinion is that you are married without children. You seem angry that you do not have children, hence jealous of the women that do. You write about adoption, so either you are trying & haven't yet or were turned down.

Well, excuse me sir. I didn't have my children til my late 20's. Do you know the statistics of children sitting in foster care, babies even. Because they're not what the couples are looking for. Too dark, not the right sex and so on. Get over yourself. Good hard working single mothers are just as able to raise, love and support their children with out government assistance, just like any married couple. The difference is the children don't have to be unhappy because they parents are miserable. My sons, yes I have 2 boys with the same father are happy well adjusted boys because they have uncles, grandfathers, great grandfathers, and males cousins that take an interest in them, love them and show them correct ways to do things as a male. I'm guessing you wished you were put up for adoption or something along those lines. It's people like you that make everything harder then it has to be.

Oh... I didn't see that. Thanks for pointing that out. Well I'm sorry to hear that. But you're more then welcome to adopt a teenager. They need just as much love and attention as a newborn.

i dont have children by choice... one you werent so fortunate to make for yourself.

i am not interested in being a mother or being tied down to a never ending resonsiblity. i prefer to be debt free, have a nice house, car, trips around the world. etc. something most people with kids can not do/have.

we were not all put on earth to pop out kids right and left

Well congrats to you for knowing that you don't want the "never ending responsiablity" and for stating your opinion. Now let others live their lives, even if they don't live up to your small closedminded bigoted veiw on how the world should work "sex" happens live with it.

Ah, that's the problem ...sex doesn't just happen or at least if you want a decent shot at life for your children. We want children to be the first thought, not the afterthought, of sexual liaisons. It makes for a better life for all involved.

WELL SAID!

Dear SinglMm:

You're wrong.

freedom of choice:

Well congrats to you for knowing that you don't want the "never ending responsiablity" and for stating your opinion. Now let others live their lives, even if they don't live up to your small closedminded bigoted veiw on how the world should work "sex" happens live with it.

Problem is too many of the others who are out living their lives are expecting other people to subsidize them.

i dont have children by choice... one you werent so fortunate to make for yourself.

i am not interested in being a mother or being tied down to a never ending resonsiblity. i prefer to be debt free, have a nice house, car, trips around the world. etc. something most people with kids can not do/have.

we were not all put on earth to pop out kids right and left

I am SO GLAD you are not having children! I mean if what you actually thought was true my life would of been ruined! Think of it! My mom was a teen pregnancy & she came from a stable 2 parent house hold. She lost her virginity to her 1st boy boyfriend and had his child. So my slutty mother then decided to be a single parent. And of course being the irresponsible person that she is, she went on to get 2 degrees. No help from my father or her parents. And of course I have to follow in her footsteps... I am 37 never wanted any kids & never had them. Made sure of it myself. I love sex. I never wanted to get married. And oh yeah... I am a biochemist, artist and mathematician. My IQ is above normal & guess what! Same with most of my friends... and here is the kicker.. most are from single parent mothers. So closed minded.

then consider yourself the one true exception... if what you said is true and i doubt it is.

anyhow... i highly encourage you to continue to "make sure" you dont have kids - you certainly dont seem like the kind of person who should have direct influence on a child.