I honestly think this is a little pathetic everyone blaming each other. Do most of you live in some form of sublime suburbia. Men and women are having sex, lots of it, looking for it as a casual thing. BOTH. In reading through here there is a common theme of single mother...how smart their kid is compared to others, how they are making it financially, their husband/boyfriend left them. Kudos for you, but take a good look at what you wrote, if that is how feel, all angry women at men...or hopelessly waiting for that someone to change just enough...it's sad and what is wrong with you?!? You couldn't be perfect either, what was your part, loving mother, loving and supportive girl? I have lived in an area of the country that is a sexual playground and now in a small town. I will tell you this, I know far too many single mothers in the small town than I did in the city.

People walk away from relationships for many reasons and you can't always say it was the child, I know some mothers that are wicked to the fathers, some that are hoplessly in love with the wrong guy and good ones are right there and walk have to walk away, others that may start to work out. Women, men know society is changing, and that income shifts are happening. So when talk about supporting yourselves like it is such a triumph (don't get me wrong, glad you are doing it), then ask yourselves why there is an old saying that men young and old agree with "my money is our money and her money is hers."

Yes, I am a single man, educated. Good guy, been told i am such a "nice guy" (coffin words) many times, athletic, good looking etc. I am not and never will be intimidated by a women for her job, her hand, her/my money, her motherhood. I am sure that I may have missed out on some wonderful relationships or possibly friendships, but I don't view dating as an interview for a friendship. But, if there is a child in the picture or more, the brakes are on by my choice not because of intimidation. I don't know if any of this makes sense but everyone has a part to play, I know a dad right now who would love to see his daughter more, he is working but not earning a whole lot, paying child support, but on his weekends unless it is convenient for mom, he may not see the daughter. It is sad, so yes single parents are not helping our country in either form. There are bad stories from both camps. You both screwed up (literally).

Thanks for your opinion . . . as a guy. We are way too busy pointing fingers instead of really discussing what can be done to aleviate the issues. Let's face it. Most out of wedlock pregnancies are "accidents." I would never call my daughter and accident, but I definitely didn't plan to have her when I did! And I also realize that what I should have done is kept my legs closed. I take full responsibility. I didn't find this article to be attacking anybody, but to point out the fact that we are accepting single parenting as being THE way to go. It's not. Again, some may not have the choice, and I commend the dads who are there for their children. Although my ex left us for another woman, I knew that it was in my children's best interest to a: Never degrade their father to them and b: to make sure that their dad had the time he needed with them. Their lives aren't perfect, but I believe they are better off than if I had taken my anger out on him through THEM.

There is the good and the bad when we look at these situations. Let's do as this article suggests and teach our children to prioritize and respect themselves!

Thanks!