have some self control and self respect

just because you have a vagina doesnt mean you have to show it and share it with every man you come across. at the very least do the taxpayers a favor and use a condom. i am not interested in footing the bill for your kid simply because you were irresponsible.

it is a very sad situation - most children who do not have a SOLID STABLE FUNCTIONAL nuclear family have very little chance for success in life. i assume the mothers of these children were not raised in the kind of home that had good values or they wouldnt be so willing to have sex before marriage.... why repeat the cylce???

its disgusting and shameful to the nation, your religion, your family and to your ethnicity

You are not footing the bill for my children. I receive no government support and pay my taxes. I agree that I don't want to pay for people who have children and live off the system. However, don't lump all single mothers together. A nuclear family isn't always a successful. If a family looks different but is still successful, it makes no difference.

So single parent mothers are whores, that sleep around with a bunch of men. Nice. How about the men keep their zippers closed? You do realize that it takes one of each sex to make a zygote, that grows into a fetus then ultimately an infant.

How easy it is for people such as yourself to get on your high moral horses about such issues! For the record, I am a 23-year-old, successful nurse who happens to be a single mom (and no, you're NOT footing the bill for my child, cupcake. I do fine with that on my own). My son's biological father was the only man I'd ever been with (meaning I'm not a slut). He was also an abusive monster (meaning it's good that we didn't get married). Also, I was raised in a stable family. My parents have been married for 35 years, and my father is a local minister. As I said before, I am successful in my life, and my son is growing up to be a well-behaved, well-adjusted child, so I find it very offensive that certain people like to make such blanket statements as the ones you did. If anything is disgusting and shameful, my dear, it is your attitude towards single moms. So I guess your argument just went down the toilet, now, didn't it?

my mum had me out of wedlock and she had no government assistance what so ever, and i turned out good :). there are more single mothers out there like that who have no govt aide than we actually think. on the other hand, two of my close friends asked me once, what they were doing wrong...both were raised in very wealthy families, went to private schools, were raised in the church, had experienced and traveled the world, were taught morals etc. and the consequences and often the joke of our group was that i would be the one to end up unwed with kids....that didnt happen....both are now single mothers, their bf's hopped town when they uttered marraige, even a prenup and pricey advances couldnt sway them....by the way their families were proud of them for giving birth and being strong so not to all families is it shameful.

Hey missy,KUDOS TO YOU! No for real,now could shed some of your education with others??You know there are not many with your story...Relax your a good girl!!

Wow, it is 2008 and there are still people who think this way about sex before marriage. That is amazing. Look at the divorce rates sweetheart. You get married and you have a 50/50 chance of staying together. You want to talk about statistics? How about the number of people who are in therapy (or need it) due to married parents who can't stand to be around each other. Just because parents are married makes them no better parents than those who are not.

Oh, and just because you have a penis doesn't mean you should shove it in every vagina that comes along either. I wonder, did you wait to have sex till you were married? I doubt it.

wow, ignorance is bliss. you must have experience w/like one downtrodden single parent. its funny because growing up when i was about fifteen. there were an equal number of two and one parent homes around me, and of all my friends, the one who wound up knocked up and unwed as a teenager at 15, was the one from the best home, two parents and a grandparent at home. mom didnt work, owned their house which was a big thing and sent their kids to religious school. she was overweight and her parents were so clueless, they didnt even know she was pregnant until she was in labor. father dissapeared. myself raised by a widowed mother(single parent) of four, who worked very hard to care for us and wasnt always perfect. lets see, planned my first child at 20, became a single adoptive foster parent to an 11 yr old ten years ago, i am college educated, own my own business and home. have three great kids. two of which are in thier third year of college and the other on the honor roll last four years she is in 9th. to assume the number of parents is the problem is absurd, what makes the difference is the love, support and security they get at home regardless of weather they are raised by one parent, a grandparent, two parents or anyone who actually cares enough to do it. the attitude of people like yourself, trying to put blame as opposed to looking at the real issues is the biggest obstacle to solving any perceived problems. start preaching abstinance to men and good parenting to everyone.

To "marriedwithoutchildren": Yourassumption that a single mother "shows it and shares it with every man you come across" reeks of ignorance. Your mean-spirited and simple-minded comments are arrogant, hostile and judgemental! You come off as mean-spirited, simple-minded and ignorant. Interesting you have no such judgements for the men who father these children.