Most of the posting explained the involved adults feelings, but the article was attempting to shed some light on the impact to the children. Almost every adult stated "I or We decided" What about the kids? A father that visits is not the same as a father that is in the home raising his children. Ecomonically speaking, single mothers often struggle through life. If you ask them, most of them wish they had a good husband/father to help them. Two incomes are always better then one. Children from married stable homes almost always out perform their counterparts. If you don't think your man is worth marrying, how could he possibly be good enough to father your child? Let's stop fooling ourselves, no one is putting single moms down, but sometimes talking about the possible harsh realities of single parenting may help some of our young people make better personal choices for themselves. That's what it's really all about. Getting information to be able to weigh out your decisions. When professionals tell us that poor diet and lack medical care is bad for our kids nobody baulks, but when the same trusted professionals give us the stats on out of wedlock pregnancies everybody gets in an uproar. Why the double standard? The truth may be harsh, but it's still the truth!!

I'm glad you see that. Now convince the fathers to participate and be involved and maybe we wouldn't have these problems.

"We" don't need to convince fathers; "we" need to decide who to LET father our children.

Stable does not automatically equal married. My home life would've been less stable if my parents had remained together.

AMEN!!

retired101 wrote: " "We" don't need to convince fathers; "we" need to decide who to LET father our children."

Unfortunately, the decision is usually based on who will impress their girlfriends, not on the man's other qualities (or rather lack thereof). Then its society's fault that he can't be "convinced" to be a father!

Reason and careful analysis of the statistics doesn't stand a chance against this stupidity. And reasonable guys are only wanted when these women need someone to pay the bills.