Dear Prudence

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IncogNeato — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 22:10:04 GMT

tonto_goldberg:

Did you notice the subheader under the title?

Dallas Wedding Consultant.

Then did you notice all the comments?

"Where can we find them...?

"Ooh! Cool!"

"I want one for my groom!"

It said, "Chocolate tuxes are all the rage for 2007." That's so last year!

Re: Sartorial choices

IncogNeato — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 22:04:45 GMT

jburd1:
The brown tux is nothing, compared to the leisure suits of the 70's. I remember so vividly going to parties in the height of style in my pumpkin orange or lime green leisure suit with the ultra-wide collar paisley shirts. Worse, I still have some pictures to prove it did so. Now those are memories to make you go "brrr".

I had a rather stout friend who had a grapefruit yellow one. Not a pretty sight, especially from behind!

Re: OK, 'fess up!

IncogNeato — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 22:03:06 GMT

ASlyJD:

(My parents? Mustard tuxedos and white guys with 'fros. Wedding date: 7/8/78)

A couple of years earlier and the guys might have been in leisure suits!

Re: OK, 'fess up!

tea_drinker — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 21:18:37 GMT

greensleeves:

You know what - my mother was married during WW2, in a gorgeous navy blue silk suit, very very classic, very very 1940s. And a fab little cocktail hat with veiling down to her nose. When I was little, I was mad because her wedding portrait did not have her in a poufy white meringue thing, like all my friends' mothers.

When I grew up, I realized she was the classiest, most elegant bride I have ever seen. Never laughed once. There ARE classic, snicker proof, non-boring outfits out there. Very much of their time, but also timeless.

Aww, I love this post! My grandpa was married in his Navy uniform and looked so so handsome. And I adore my parent's wedding photo with my dad's Buddy Holly glasses and my mom's classic Audrey Hepburn dress. What I think makes both photos so great is that they wore something that really showed who they were at the time, and didn't try to dress up as someone they weren't for a day.

Re: It's not that difficult.

Tom_Tildrum — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 16:36:24 GMT

I don't disagree with what you've said, and certainly I had similar reactions to this bride's color choices. But just to be fair to the Bridezilla LW, if the message we want to convey is "Lighten up, it's just one day," then it strikes me that we're on somewhat shaky ground if we go on to say "but don't choose colors that will haunt you for the rest of your life."

Re: It's not that difficult.

Heleva — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 16:18:02 GMT

This reminds me to get ready for which ever of my kids decides to get married next.

I think the shiny lime green tux with Azalea pink shirt and white shoes and belt for the SO and something truly unique for me...

Ah the machinations of a mother used to show.

Re: It's not that difficult.

mermaid33 — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 15:59:02 GMT

I get a kick out of The Reverend's pictures from his first wedding circa 1976. The girls are in yellow Gunne Sax prairie dresses with macrame chokers and Donna Fargo hairdos and the guys are in brown tuxes (with satin piping) and yellow frilly shirts. All that brown and yellow makes me think of a big platter of cheese enchiladas.

It's not that difficult.

tonto_goldberg — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 15:32:30 GMT

IphigeniaGoesShopping:

But you know, most of us can only dream of attaining such timeless elegance. Many of us really can't tell a classic, snicker-proof. nonboring outfit from the latest trend-chasing soon-to-be-dismissed atrocity.. It's tragic. I weep.

There's a good reason the black tux is the one that has survived after so many decades. It's the classic. Same with the white dress for the bride; you can add puffy sleeves - or not; train, veil, seed pearls; it won't ever look dorky. If you find that all too boring, concentrate on your honeymoon. Don't mess with the basics.

Tell the wedding planner not to let the door slam on her behind as she leaves.

Re: Sartorial choices

Domini — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 15:29:11 GMT

jburd1:
The brown tux is nothing, compared to the leisure suits of the 70's. I remember so vividly going to parties in the height of style in my pumpkin orange or lime green leisure suit with the ultra-wide collar paisley shirts. Worse, I still have some pictures to prove it did so. Now those are memories to make you go "brrr".

Try sharkskin suits and sock ties. That's my generational horror. Mullets and high top fades just finish the comedy.

Re: OK, 'fess up!

Domini — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 15:26:25 GMT

I thought it was the "blue won't go with brown and sage green" thing that made it fake. Since when does blue not go with brown.

Bridesmaids in sage green is sadistic.

yes, you can be of the time and timeless...

Austin Annie — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 15:24:45 GMT

...but not in a brown tuxedo, sorry. It will look cool now, but it's tomorrow's joke. Wear your colored tuxes to prom instead. Because unlike wedding pictures, which one would hopefully want to display for years, prom pics have a shelf life of one year.

Related observation: why is it that the people who blindly dive into the latest trends are the ones who are so sure they know how to dress everyone else? This is why I think the letter is fo' reals.

Re: OK, 'fess up!

IphigeniaGoesShopping — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 14:45:19 GMT

That sounds lovely.

But you know, most of us can only dream of attaining such timeless elegance. Many of us really can't tell a classic, snicker-proof. nonboring outfit from the latest trend-chasing soon-to-be-dismissed atrocity.. It's tragic. I weep.

Thusly we console ourselves: when our fashion choices come back to bite us in the butt, we will at least keep a sense of humor about it.

In defense of brown suits . . .

ASlyJD — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 14:41:13 GMT

I'm a caucasion with dark brown hair. Take a black suit and a chocolate (or darker) brown suit of identical cuts and fabric. I'll look washed out in the black and radiant in the brown.

Clothes, especially for a wedding, should be chosen to make people look as good as possible. If that means straying from tradition, so be it. (after all, most wedding traditions are ridiculous and anachronistic anyway.)

Re: OK, 'fess up!

MessyONE — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 14:34:00 GMT

Dude, that came from a Dallas magazine....'nuff said.

Sartorial choices

jburd1 — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 14:33:18 GMT

The brown tux is nothing, compared to the leisure suits of the 70's. I remember so vividly going to parties in the height of style in my pumpkin orange or lime green leisure suit with the ultra-wide collar paisley shirts. Worse, I still have some pictures to prove it did so. Now those are memories to make you go "brrr".