To the woman who has "unromantic" boyfriend: The first thing that came to my mind is that you should both read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It distinguishes the five different ways that people tend to give/receive love and then you can self-assess your primary and secondary love languages. It's written by a Christian author/psychologist, but it's not inundated with Christian references or proselytizing at all. It's filled more with real-life stories of couples and how learning their "love languages" helped them save their marriages. You sound like you speak in "Gifts" but maybe your fiance speaks in "Touch" or "Service"? Maybe he's really good holding you the right way when you're upset or taking care of bills or things around the house even when you don't notice? Basically, his idea of romance may be completely different and he doesn't even know it. Anyway, hope you'll consider the book, and congratulations on your engagement!