Dawn Coyote asked:

1) What is "the full identity of being a man"?
2) When you say "men and women are not identical - rather we are complementary" what is this complementarity, exactly? How does it work?
3) What does it mean to "eviscerate masculinity" and "make boys into womanized drones"? What do boys do when they've been made into womanized drones? Why would American women want to do this, and how would they benefit from success in such an endeavor?
4) How would a boy or man behave if he were "overcompensat[ing] any manliness or male identity in order to offset the predominant feminine and female identity in [his] life"?
5) You said that you see many male characters in pop culture who are "completely misandrous, emasculating, demoralizing"—what criteria are you using to define these characters this way, and can you name any that you specifically view this way?
6) You posit that "In fact, one could make a thesis that male characters in pop culture today now invoke emasculating misandry in greater numbers and dimensions than past female characters invoked misogyny." What is "emasculating misandry"? How did past female charters evoke misogyny? What are the observable cultural results of this "emasculating misandry" you see, and what are/were the cultural correlates of pop culture's depictions of women? What are the consequences of these images of men and women?

Answers:

1. I could write a book in this topic, however, I would have to refer to examples of particular men or a man, who encapsulate a true man. In the case of my actual words "full identity of a man", I was referring to in contrast with the stereotypical 1950s American man ala John Wayne.

But my example of a true man is the Prophet Muhammad (saaw). There is many narrations which reveal most every facet of him. For example, he was observed hugging and kissing his toddler grandsons. A bedouin (essentially the arab version of a redneck hillbilly) who was watching shouted out in amazement: I have several sons and I have never kissed one of them! Muhammad replied: if you do not show mercy, how can you expect mercy?

There are many such narrations, such as in his last days, many dignitaries would come to see him. But one day, a poor little girl ran up to him and took his hand. And he let her take him around and talk to him while all the important dignitaries and leaders waited. Today, many politicans practice talking to the 'common folk'. But Muhammad did this when kings and emperors killed common folk on a whim and ignored their needs. He routinely went without food because he gave it away to needy people.

Even as the Prophet of God, he used to prepare food and take care of the needs of his wives rather than they doing for him. He even sewed his own clothes, cooked for himself and others, cleaned after himself and his family, and so on.

When his 3rd son Ibrahim died at age 2, he wept openly. Some of his companions were shocked and asked him: Oh Prophet, what are those things coming from your eyes? (a way of saying: you shouldn't cry). He said: They are my emotions.

When the Prophet was leading a military expedition, he stopped in an oasis and walked alone for a while. Some of the men found a bird's nest and took out the baby birds. The mother bird frantically began flying around trying to distract the men. At that time, the Prophet returned and was visually upset. He demanded: Why is this bird distressed? One man said he took the baby birds and the mother bird is reacting. The Prophet said: do not cause the mother such distress and return the babies to her.

These are examples of a man: a man who commands armies will defend the life of a tiny baby bird. And there are many more narrations about justice to oneself, one's family, to God, etc. like this which make the sternest, roughest, men cry and break the idea of a man as emotionless, merciless, heartless.