It is not about the milk. It is about the immune system, it is about emotion, it is about them learning how to let go and feel safe on their terms. it is about them becoming independent when they feel like it. I set limits of course, and I teach them limits. I have just never said "okay that it kid your old enough." Old enough is not just about being able to eat. Of course they eat other things, lots of things. But nursing is more than just food.

hard to explain in such a manner, but it is asking the question "why nurse an older baby/child" that lightbulbs go off and the true nature of nursing begins.

I looked about for reading to answer your question best I can. Here it is...Nursing Your Toddler

Trust me I did not nurse that long for my sake.....(well part of me was glad all my kids allowed me to put 12 years of breastfeeding consecutively under my belt as for every year you breastfeed decreases the chance of breast cancer by 4% and since my mom died of BC at 54 and her sister died of BC at 56 and my sister was diagnosed last year at 43 ...well I'm glad it went as long as it did)

Are all my kids independant...yup, but that was just part of my parenting "style" and that style included child lead weaning. I do not have one emotionally clingy child (I have 5 children)

And about sex...no problem..it happens...