wouldn't it be wonderful if we stopped judgeing and started supporting.

I know I was a community leader for a women network discussion board and found that women really do need to come together.

the problems encountered in making a choice to breastfed or bottle feed is huge. People making judgements is aweful.

I got accolades for breastfeeding the twins but as soon as I breastfeed for "too long" (over 3 years and one doc gave me advice that said i should have stopped before they were a year old) I get worse looks than if I formula fed them.

What is it?!!!

I formula fed my first after 4 months because my doctor didn't care which way I fed him (probably fearing she would seem to be judging me). I didn't know better and so didn't realize that lack of support was affecting my choices. Did I want to beastfeed my son, yup, but I wasn't getting re-lactation advice from anyone and had to discover it on my own. With number two son, I breastfed him till he self-weaned, but I had to discover why it went wrong the first time. Just hearing "well if it isn't working thats okay" is not alwasy the best wa to support, and neither is telling a mom fresh from birth that she is being horrid for contemplating formula. Many moms want to breastfeed but just don't know how to avoid the many pitfalls.

Support and kindness go a long way.