I have no love for Obama. I despise him because he doesn't respect democratic processes enough for my tastes.

But showing respect (or lack thereof) for the flag is a poor basis for deciding who to vote for, and I urge you to reconsider. Whether someone puts their hand over their heart during the national anthem has no bearing on their performance as President.

Voting against someone due to disrespect for the flag, real or perceived, is misguided coming from anyone. It's particularly offensive coming from a servicemember. The oath I swore, and the one your husband swore if he has re-uppped at any time since 1962 (or 1959 if he's an officer), was to support and defend the Constitution of the United States. Not the flag. Not a song. The Constitution. A candidate's respect or disrespect for the Constitution is a relevant issue, and one where your husband's and your sacrifices may entitle you to extra respect for your opinions. Disrespecting the flag is not.