Yes, that attitude is very annoying.

I think that your definition is a definition of totalitarianism, and applies to communism as well. But fascism is better defined as a close alliance between corporations and the government... the government controls things politically... but the government itself is controlled by the business and corporate sector... and that well describes America.

No argument about imperialism. Of course Hitlerian fascism had an imperialist agenda, but was thwarted. No external enemy exists to thwart American imperialism, so only our own wisdom could accomplish that, but American corporations and corporate owned media are working hard to prevent voters from understanding the cost of being an empire. Don't hold your breath waiting for that to change.