Just to offer another perspective, the cousin might have legitimately wanted to gather her family, since she says as much (although the destination wedding does not exactly support that theory). Our scattered family doesn't get together any more except for occasions like weddings. At the last clan wedding, my mom and grandma were so thrilled at the idea of everyone in the family being there, since it had been at least fifteen years since everyone had been together. The bride and groom loved that they were able to unite everyone for a day. As my grandma is elderly and in poor health, there will probably not be too many more chances for her to be surrounded by her children and grandchildren. Everyone took time out of their busy lives to attend (and kudos to them!), not only as a celebration of the wedding but as a celebration of family, except for one grandchild. There are now wonderful photos of the family...minus one. So while the bride certainly wasn't very polite about the LW's RSVP, she may not have been motivated solely by greed or princessness. She may have been disappointed that everybody made the effort to come together as a family, only to have one person make work their priority (come on, take a personal day!).