To paraphrase ShelleneT

In any relationship, rather than try to controll someone, why not show them that you really appreciate what they do and who they are, and encourage them rather than punish? Not everything is crucial all the time (in terms of domestic chores), so it's worthwhile for both genders to let things slide and have some grownup fun with each other- since the whole reason you're together is because you like and love each other to begin with.

oicuateonetwo, Inquisitor, tubbs- would you guys feel more comfortable about committing to a woman who ascribed to this philosophy? Who sees a love relationship as more than a means of setting up domestically or procreating?

Would you deny that you would like to share time with a woman who makes you feel awesome about yourself, and who enriches your life on whatever levels are important to you?

I'm really curious to hear about what you DO want, rather than what you DON'T want. And I'm not giving you a hard time about it- honestly.