To be really cliche about it...things change. People change. Something that might have sounded really exciting to her five or six years ago might be extremely overwhelming now. She sounds very extroverted, and he sounds rather introverted. She's going to have a child, she has a home, she has a career...all things that didn't exist for her not so long ago.

Prudie is right. They really, really should have talked about this in depth once the merlot wore off, but they didn't. This is obviously a huge issue in their relationship, and the solution is not as simple as saying, "But you SAID we could, so we will!" I was in a similar situation a while ago. I moved to the Northwest for work, and my (now ex) boyfriend came with me. He's from the desert, and the cooler, wetter climate up here didn't agree with him. After we'd been here a while, he said that to be fair, in a few years, we should move back to the desert; I responded vaguely that I'd look into a transfer in a couple of years. Fast forward two years...he brought it up again, mentioned that I had "promised" to go back to the deset with him, and said that I should start thinking about a transfer. In those two years, I had gone from having a job to having a career, made a great network of friends, and had completely fallen in love with my new hometown. So I told my ex that nope, I was staying put, and he had the choice to stay or to leave. He chose to leave, and I don't blame him or hold that against him. We should all find a place on Earth where we're happy, and I hope he finds his.

Falling in love with another person doesn't mean that everything else in your life fades away. It might seem like that at first, but some of the key elements to a happy relationship (like the one I have now) are having a good base of support...a loving family, close friends, a job you enjoy, and a home that you look forward to coming home to. Love means sacrifice, yes, and I think that she SHOULD make this move (she does sound young and it would be an incredible, character-building life experience) but not just right now. If it's early in her pregnancy, she and hubby should take a month long "babymoon" so that she can experience her husband's country and culture. She might even find herself excited to go! When her baby is big enough to travel, she should take the little one over for a few months to visit his family. By then, she might be ready to make that final step and make the move. I don't think it's an unreasonable idea, and for her husband to coerce her into doing this while pregnant based on a promise she made five years ago while tipsy is a little insensitive.