Maybe they should have lived in Germany first, so she could worry about starting a family five-years-in here in the U.S (w/ family/friends to support her).

I don't buy the merlot-addled excuse - did she black it out of her memory? Why couldn't she have broached the subject later?

I understand why moving to a new country is scary but it seems incredibly unfair to her husband for her to change her mind now. It's almost as if she promised to just get married hoping she could change his mind about it later.

Are there online support groups for ex-pats, maybe she can befriend American women in Germany to talk to?