That's a very very good point. But, in the meantime (in the Patriarchy we live in, ugh)... I think the alternatives given here - like diaphragms - are an incredibly good way to approach this issue of girls trying to be 'safe' and also keeping their bodies safe. I've been struggling with the birth control pill idea all day long in conversation with Spiker - and the diaphragm idea (i.e. not leaving it up to the guy to agree to wear a condom (a sad reality in teen AND adult sexual relations is the whole 'I don't want to wear a condom' thing)) is a fabulous alternative.