Shotsie - why are you assuming the ultimate goal is good partner sex? Is that the ultimate goal of everything you do? I like to read but ever since I put the smut books down (around 16), none of that really contributes to my sex life. We are both on this board reading and thinking about things but I hope like hell a DP letter doesn't contribute to our sex lives. Etc etc etc... In the same way masturbation is a pleasurable activity all on its own. Girls are allowed to have fun without worrying how that is going to make her a better lover for the men of the world. You may not have meant to come off that way but your post read as her body is more important for male pleasure than for her own pleasure - and that is really screwed up.