I understand that begging forgiveness might be the way to go, just to get past the issue. But on the other hand, this was a child acting out. It would be insane for a father of a 27 year old to refuse to talk to her because she threw temper tantrums at 4 and acting out as a teen is sort of a natural extension of that. Yes, it went too far. Yes, even a 14 year old should have a basic understanding of why that behavior is wrong. But at 14, that sort of extreme acting out should have been dealt with and professionals should have gotten involved. That kind of behavior indicates that something was really really wrong and the kid needed help. The fact that dad just allowed her to break it off was really bad parenting on his part. So he certainly has some fault here too.