There was no name-calling. If you look at the threaded view, you will see that this was a reply to Jazz's reply, using the term "stupid" to agree with his remark. Even without the threaded view, since my post was directly below his, the context should have pointed out to you the relationship, as both posts used the word "stupid", implying a correlation between the term in both posts.
If you will look at this <link>, you will see that the domestic abuse is already there, not merely presumed. The LW states: I am very ticklish, and I hate being tickled. He found out about this weakness when we first started dating, and since then, barely a day goes by when he doesn't try to tickle me. Whenever we are lying on the couch or in bed together, he will start tickling me, and when I react he gets on top of me and pins me down so that I can't defend myself. I have repeatedly told him that I hate being tickled, that it makes me feel vulnerable and no longer in control of my body, and when he continues to do it, it is disrespectful. He insists that because I laugh, I must enjoy it. He adds that I need to learn to master my mind, and once I "convince" myself that I am not ticklish, then I won't panic when he tickles me. (Emphasis mine)
Specifically:
1) Minimizing, denying and blaming: Making light of the abuse and not taking it seriously, ... shifting responsibility for the abusive behavior [by insisting she needs to "learn" not to be ticklish] ...
2. Emotional abuse: Putting her down, ... making her think she's crazy [to be bothered by this], ...humiliating her [making her lose control of her body] ...
3. Using intimidation: Makingher afraid by using ... actions [the tickling, which she has told him she hates] ...
4. Using male privilege: ... Acting like the "master of the castle [by pining her down]
If she reacts violently, the odds are extremely great that he will also react violently, in a much greater measure than she is able to employ. He obviously is much stronger than she is, as he already knows how to make her unable to defend herself. This situation and your recommendation are both recipes for disaster.
