Excuse me Prudie, but where did Am I Rude say that she "resents" his/her friends because they have "paired up." Not all single people are resentful or jealous of their coupled friends. Furthermore, Am I Rude didn't even SAY that s/he was single!

And I don't believe that your advice was correct at all. Am I Rude wants to have a reunion-type get together with grad school friends, that frankly does not concern their current romantic partners. I think it is appauling that people believe their romantic partners are invited along everywhere just because they are their romantic partners. Women do not need escorts to leave the house anymore, so this is an absurd assumption to make. This person wants to get a group of friends together, and while s/he doesn't have a problem with anyone's romantic partners, there simply is not room for them. Your advice was to change around all of the plans just because some people have romantic partners. And why would these parnters even WANT to go to a party with a bunch of people they don't know who will all be rehashing the old days. No, I'm sorry Prudence but I found this advice terribly offensive. Am I Rude should simply email the invited guests and say "I'd like the six of us to get together for a small dinner" and make it clear that space and resources are scarce, and if necessary, let individuals know that while she'd love to have the person they're currently sleeping with as well, she simply doesn't have the space. Hopefully her friends won't be so rude as to bring along uninvited guests unannounced.