The more the LW from Chicago talked, the less I liked her. And if she'd simply read her own letter, I'm pretty sure she'd see where her problems are coming from.

"I am in my mid-20s and have been blessed with success, wonderful family and friends, and a great relationship with my live-in boyfriend of three years."

Also, she graduated with honors from Lake Wobegone High. Too bad none of that has anything to do with her problem. But, I'm willing to accept on face value that she's also totally hot and that she makes more money than any of her friends (though they are all safely above average).

"...he likes to spend virtually all of his free time with his family in the suburbs"

It could be she's just trying to say they live a long ways away...or maybe she just needed to make it clear that she's one of the totally cool people who lives in the city.

"(luckily, I'm like you, Emily, and I don't put much value in superficial holidays and anniversaries). "

But, she just had to mention it, anyway.

"I have a feeling that she dislikes the fact that I often skip out on family events altogether, which I do..."

So, family is big to them, yet she doesn't want any part of them. Shocking that they haven't hit it off.

"Also, do you think my future with him is doomed because I want to create my OWN family with him, not simply procreate to expand his?"

But if she sticks with him, they are going to be her family, too. And it's only fair to question where this whole "my OWN family" thing is coming from. She bragged about her great family and family is HUGE for him; that doesn't sound like either of them is opposed to marriage. Yet, despite living together, it sounds like the big M hasn't come up in three years. Why is that? And do you think that just might have something to do with his family not really bonding with her or taking her seriously?