benjaminkwhiskey:

degsme, you said "For example, if Rich Dude threatens to evict elderly parents unless woman sleeps with him, technically it isn't rape." You are 100% wrong. Actually that level of duress would be considered rape.

Thanks -- that was definitely needed on this thread.

What I'm finding fascinating is that so few posters actually know what rape is.

It's not about whether or not she had anything to drink (or did drugs, or flirted, or whatever). It's about consent. If she's unconscious, she can't give consent, so the answer must be assumed to be "no". If she says no otherwise, then it's rape.

And no, it doesn't matter if it's your wife, your girlfriend, or someone you met an hour ago. It's all about consent. The only difference in a long-term relationship is that (hopefully) the two of you are better at "reading" each other and so don't need to be so explicit about consent. If you don't have consent, you're not having sex. You're assaulting someone.

And if you're worried that consent could be a "gray area", may I suggest that you assume the answer is "no" unless otherwise stated?