It's probably some of each ..... maybe a deadbeat dad, maybe they don't live near each other (my ex and I are three states apart), maybe mom's Type A. But by definition divorced parents tend to want to do too much for their kids and not say no to overcompensate their kids for being divorced. Not enough information to make those kinds of judgements. But I do agree that she could say no to a few things in order to take some time for herself. Heathy, rested parents are BETTER parents (I almost said stress-free but I don't think there is any such thing as a stress-free parent).