I'm surprised no one else has commented on the letter from the young woman who's engaged to be married and wonders if she should tell her future husband about her brother's sexual abuse when they were younger. Yes, she should but not for the reasons Prudie's gives her.

A clever sociopath will tell you whatever you want to hear. I have an old friend who bounces checks, shoplifts, stole from her mother when she was dying because she needed a fix, etc. This friend (these days I use the term loosely) says "I'm sorry" faster than I've ever heard anyone say it. She will tell you how sorry she is as often as you want to hear it as she continues to do exactly what she wants to do whenever she wants to do it.

The brother learned at a young age that he couldn't victimize family members because they wouldn't tolerate it. Just because he doesn't rape his sister anymore doesn't mean he never victimizes anyone else. He just no longer s###s where he eats.

The LW might get a bitter surprise when her fiance dumps her because he doesn't want to marry into such a gullible, screwed up family. I know I wouldn't want to.