I understand the core of what Prudie is getting at.
However, what I think she's failing to notice is the "lay around younger guy" seems to be turning into an epidemic.

I'm in a similar situation. I'm 24, he's 22. He graduated college in May, and has since moved back in with his parents. However, he has ZERO motivation-he's managed to apply to ONE job in these two months. He has no idea what he wants to do with his life, and on top of that is currently experiencing a "existential crisis" about who he is.

This has been happening to a LOT of my female and male friends. Nearly all of my male friends seem content to work a dead-end job and live in their parents' basement. I and my friends are flummoxed. I don't consider myself in the fast lane of motivation-I'd like to be a teacher, or maybe a professor, if I can manage it. We're not demanding our boyfriends be a Master of the Universe.

So where does this lack of motivation in the males of my generation (generally) seem to come from?? And how are we, as women supposed to deal with it? I've dated my boyfriend for three years, and he is intelligent, funny, deeply loyal and caring (plus a knock out in the sack.) But his near refusal to plan for the future is slowly killing me (and us.) Do you really dump such a man-when it seems that there are no motivated men of my age group left?

PS: I also found it fascinating the responses I get about my situation. My female friends think it's bizarre and frustrating, my guy friends think I'm being a nag and should be patient... for, ever, I guess?