Ah yes, blame women for men being on the defensive :)

What I'm trying to say is, men or women don't have to explain or defend their choices at all. Period. I'm married to a Japanese man. Very few people have questioned me on marrying outside my race. When someone has asked me why I'm with him, I don't go into how much better looking I think Asian guys are than white guys, how Japanese men have better personalities, etc. It's insulting to, well, anyone. I say "I married ____ because he's nice, smart, funny, good-looking, etc. Not nicer, smarter, funnier, better-looking...

See what I mean? Also, the more defensive and the more you try to justify your preference, the more like sour grapes it sounds. And that's why a lot of people assume that any guy with an Asian girl and refuses to look at white girls probably "can't get one." I don't believe that, but that's why others get that impression.

That's all!