It's no wonder you meet so many strident, defensive, and overwrought feminists. I see it in myself sometimes when talking to Caucasian men in Japan or in my Asian studies classes here in the U.S. Why do men who prefer Asian women have to constantly put down white women to justify a preference? I really don't care if you like Asian women. Many are beautiful, intelligent, and headstrong. But not all of them are! And to classify them as such, while having to put down white women to make a point, is annoying.

I lived in Japan for about three years. I spent one year there as an exchange student. The fall semester was spent with my Caucasian boyfriend. We had met in Japanese class and decided to study abroad together. Some of the boys on our program actually told him he should break up with me, his girlfriend of over a year, because there were so many hot Japanese girls he could be hooking up with instead. When we hung out together with some of the guys from our program, I had to constantly hear about how much better Japanese girls were than American girls.

We eventually broke up, and I moved back to Japan and met and married a wonderful Japanese man. We moved back to the U.S. a few months ago, so before we left he wanted to make sure he said good-bye to everyone. We had dinner with his old English teacher, an Australian man who had lived in Japan for the better part of his life. He started out the conversation asking me if I was worried that my husband would dump me for a Japanese girl. It was one of the first questions he asked me, because he didn't even feel that it was offensive to assume that everyone would rather be with a Japanese girl than a cute white girl.

I could go on and on. I'm still in my mid 20's, but after just a few years of listening to this has made me quite strident, defensive, and at times overwrought. I don't care if you prefer Asian girls. I really don't! But quit feeling like you have to put down someone else in order to justify your attraction to a different person.