This is addressed to a few of the more strident and defensive women I've encountered here and elsewhere in my life -

One of the things that strikes me is the way some overwrought feminists' arguments boomerang right back at them. In being so quick to accuse white men of looking for submissive women when they date Asians, they're displaying their own acceptance of the submissive-asian stereotype. Until a man outright says something that proves it, and I'll admit that there are a -minority- of creeps are out there, you're jumping too quickly to the submissive-asian trope. It's not such a leap to say that you have the same internalized judgments about Asian women yourselves.

My second point is this: how does it feel to have a stranger psychoanalyze and dissect your outlook until it comes out in the most negative light possible? It's not very pleasant, and it's definitely not fair. This is coming from another caucasian guy who has long been attracted to Asian women. I really don't believe I'm so different from most others who feel the same way, especially since most Asian women in this country are born and raised American - "submissiveness", even if real (and in my personal exp. w/ Chinese, Filipino, and Korean girls they tend to be more self-confident and headstrong than most white girls), is a cultural trait, and most white guys dating Asian girls are just dating other Americans.

My first reaction to anyone who wants to throw the "yellow fever" label at me is along the lines of: "Where do you come off? You don't know me". Attraction is a personal, wonderfully idiosyncratic thing, and the world's a better place for it. Why am I attracted to Asian girls? I love dark hair, a heart-shaped face, and I love Asian women's voices. Not accent, but voice - it's subtle but it's there. I even like Asian men's voices, but of course in a more low-key, platonic way.

See? Individual idiosyncrasy. I'm not the patriarchy, I'm not the entire white race and I never started any wars of conquest. I just think Asian girls are pretty, and I'd like to have my individual choices respected just as much you would.