Generally speaking, I agree with you. But I will say that many women from the south have a very unique way of letting one know they disapprove of something. My brother moved to the south from the midwest and I visit him and his family there often. While at a casual backyard BBQ at his house, a native of the town made a disparaging remark to me about women who would be seen in public without make-up on their face (and I was sans make-up at the time due spending time outside in 95+ heat). Also, when my teenage niece went to church in what I considered a cute sundress, she was asked by the pastor's wife as well as the organist if she wasn't COLD for heaven's sake so as to express their displeasure about her choice of dress. These comments are usually followed by a bit of a sniff and a look of disdain at having to "remind" we crude Yanks of "proper" behavior. I understand the LW's frustration. It's irritating to be reminded that these women are more "correct" and that we require "enlightenment" by those more proper then we are. I only visit once or twice a year. I would suppose it's even harder when you must live in this somewhat hostile environment.