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As far as I know I've never been cheated on. But I've been with enough men to know that the idea of a quick cold lay with absolutely NO emotional connection is somewhat a myth (I've found even men who fear commitment to be surprisingly tender.) And quite frankly, if it IS quick and cold, you can accomplish the act all on your own without grinding your body with your NON spouse.

I'm reading Susan's messages and thinking the same thing. Basically, there's no such thing as "just sex." My brain has gotta be doing its chemical thing if I'm gonna have it, because you can't thread a keyhole with wet spaghetti. Emotion is inherent in sex. Mind and body, they are one system and you can't separate them, so why even bother to write a phrase like "just sex." "It's not the sex, it's the deception that kills marriages," I've heard it said. Nonsense, of course it's the sex.