My heart goes out to you. Do you really want a baby with this guy? Rent the movie "The Joy Luck Club" and observe the relationship of the couple who "split" expenses. I was in a marriage like this and had the good luck and sense to get out of it. I made a mistake marrying him, and am very happy to be free of the manipulation. Whatever you decide, good luck and I support your dream to have a baby, but probablly not with this guy unless he is willing to change his ways which is doubtful.