Funny how people ask others to tell them what they already know.

You think it's a bad idea to have a child with this man. You're right.

You think you might want to divorce this man. You're right.

You think that forgiving him might be risky. You're right.

What advice do you need? You're either prepared to forgive him and risk him lying to you again or you're not. None of us can tell you whether you are. You have to figure that out yourself. I wouldn't trust him, but it isn't my marriage at stake, is it?

Keep this in mind, however: 24-25, single and childless is was different than 24-25 with a kid (or "baggage" as we single guys like to call it). Do not, DO NOT, have this man's kid until he's shaped up for at least a year, and you're certain that you two have a future. Otherwise, prepare for the joys of single motherhood, and good luck with the child support.