regfife:

Regarding your points on mutual understanding, I agree. But then you say the problem is 100% with her. Which is it?

Nowhere did I say anything about "mutual" - I said the problem was the woman's (deliberate?) lack of understanding of how men operate. 100% with her.

regfife:

porn reduces sex to an animal urge instead of an expression of love between a couple who are committed to each other. The wife who has sex with her porn-viewing husband can't help but think, "Am just another slut to him?"

Expression of love? And you are posting as a man? I call shenanigans.

1) Sex is an animal urge. Deal with it. Incidentally, humans are animals.

2) Your projection is wholly inside your own head. We have no evidence even remotely suggesting the woman wouldn't be thinking "I'm so happy to be sleeping with this man!"

If the woman was doing 100% of what the man needed, I completely agree, no porn necessary. However, again, this is the definition of compromise - female steps it up one or two a week, the guy is happy for his extra sessions, and the female doesn't ask about the rest of the time. The same goes for a female with a higher sex drive than the male...

3) You're completely (and conveniently) discounting the fact that the physiological effect of the private viewing session is a calm, relaxed, focused male.. whereas your "control" theory simply results in being high-strung, tense, and anxious. Pick one! Gosh, and with a baby around - I wonder which one the wife will choose.